Betrayal Trauma Recovery Tips
Work on building support. Who can you talk to that you trust? Find a betrayal trauma support group (for my virtual group in Texas, click here), therapist, coach, or all of the above. For betrayal trauma specialists search the APSATS website here.
Take short breaks throughout the day to check in with yourself: breathe deep and slow, release tension(tight jaw, tense shoulders, etc.).
Spend time doing things unrelated to betrayal trauma (non-recovery book, music, hobbies). It may be hard at first, but your nervous system will thank you over time.
Now is the time to build self-trust. Betrayal chips away at your ability to listen to your gut from deception and gaslighting (for more info. on sorting through the confusion of gaslighting click here). Start now trusting you - if something doesn’t feel right, give yourself time to seek support and clarity. Give yourself permission to take action to protect yourself and create safety.
Take your time with trusting others who have broken your trust. It doesn’t make sense to give trust where trustworthiness hasn’t been demonstrated.
Learn about boundaries. To get you started, know that a boundary includes what YOU will do if your need isn’t met. Otherwise, it’s likely a request.
Focus on the basics where possible. Delegate what you can. Learn to say no when needed. You are important. Your needs are important.
